We have all heard this saying since we were young. So many people fake it till they make it. Watch politics, news, celebrity TV shows; there are people faking it everywhere! But is that really the best thing to do or does it just make you fake?
Personally, I believe that faking at anything does nothing to help you or the people you are faking for.
Faking is a lie!
Now you are wondering, “If I don’t know what I am doing, but need to be doing it, what else am I supposed to do?”
That is a great question, and the answer is simple (note I did not say easy). If you have started a new position, you have a new product, or you are looking for a job, all you need to do is learn everything you can about that position, product, or job. Before you say “I don’t have time to learn,” I want to remind you everyone has the same 24 hours in every day and there are 7 days in every week.
Assess for a moment how your time is currently being spent and then make the time to learn. When we learn and understand the intricacies of ourselves, product, or position, we build confidence. Without confidence, we are faking it and the real people we come across every day can smell a fake person a mile away… so it isn’t helping you to fake it.
What does help you? Having solid knowledge about your services so you can speak intelligently about them. The more competent we are on a topic the more fluently we can speak on the topic, which then makes us more confident. The more confident we are when discussing ourselves, our services, our products, our positions, the more helpful we become.
There is only one position in the world that it is ok to be fake. Can you guess?
Acting! It is ok to pretend to be someone or something other than who you are. That is, in fact, the nature of acting…it isn’t real, it is fake! So faking it, is ok. But if you are not an actor, do yourself a favor, stop faking it.
Public Speaking… YIKES!
Standing in front of a room full of people is intimidating. Talking about any subject to this room full of people is scary! The only way to face that fear is to take it one step at a time, one word at a time, and one presentation at a time.
If you haven’t read the “One Minute Manager” by Spencer Johnson, then do that first. This allows you to breathe, prep, produce, then assess the success and failures. This is part of the learning part that will grow confidence.
The more stages you speak on, the more rooms of strangers you enlighten with your advice and knowledge, the easier it becomes and the better you become at it.
Wait…Did She Just Say Failure?!
Oh yeah, I mentioned the ‘f’ word… Failure. The truth is you are going to fail. I have, and every successful person on this planet before you or I were ever thought of has failed. What separates a successful person from an unsuccessful person is how many times they took that failure and applied the lessons learned, failure after failure.
Ever heard the saying “Fail your way to success?” That is exactly the key! Failure is inevitable. It is what we choose to do with that failure that makes the difference between a fake and a real life.
So what are you going to do today? What are you going to learn today? Who are you going to help today? And how will these decisions help you become a success, and not fake?
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